You got big dreams. You want fame. Well, fame costs, and right here is where you start paying – in sweat.
Lydia Grant (played by Debbie Allen) in ‘Fame’ (affiliate link).
You may not want fame, but whatever it is you do want will take commitment. If it’s worth having it won’t happen overnight. You’ll need to work for it. It will take time, perseverance, and change. To get through the long period of time when nothing seems to be happening or circumstances are blocking your opportunity, you need commitment. You need to look at where you want to be and keep that as your focus. It’s easy to slide into what’s comfortable. Comfortable keeps you from feeling pain, but it also numbs you to possible pleasure. Comfortable will keep you from experiencing the kind of life you were meant for.
On Being Comfortable
Most people will tell you that it’s okay to feel comfortable with where you. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying what you have and what you have achieved. And if you’re happy with it, few will fault you with your stagnation. A majority of people want to be comfortable; they don’t need, or even dream, of reaching for their full potential. But resting on your laurels will keep you from a far more fulfilling life and way of being. Even if you are satisfied with your life, you can still move forward in your development.
Keep Moving Forward
No matter where you are with life, you can keep moving forward. All it takes is commitment to improving yourself. You don’t have to change your job or your family, but you may have to change what you’re doing in your free time. Change is hard. It takes courage to change and to create a new way of life for you to feel even more fulfilled. Commit to your next creative project, bring it to fruition, and keep moving forward.
Human beings have a biological need to be accepted as part
of a group. In tribal situations, being sent away from the group was a
punishment that often resulted in the banished person’s death. One human alone
would have difficulty surviving the elements, finding food, and fighting off
those animals at the top of the food chain. Even as recently as the Middle
Ages, banishment from a country was a punishment on the same level as death. We
want and need to be accepted; taking the safe path and avoiding ideas that
might not work allows people to feel safe. No group would banish someone for
doing what he or she was told to do.
For better or worse, people also have a drive to explore. As
tribes grew and competed for resources, people needed to push the boundaries
and find places with more resources. Everything that has ever been discovered
required someone brave or stupid enough to try it first. It takes courage to go
over the next mountain to find food. It takes courage to convince your tribe to
stay in one place while crops grow. It takes courage to suggest a new action
because failure could mean laughter, ridicule and ostracization.
Creativity takes courage because it leaves the person open
to all of his or her primal fears. The group may not only reject the creative
work or suggestion, but also the person may lose status or membership in the
group. That loss of an identifier may not be as physically bad as death, but it
is as emotionally bad as banishment. In a business setting, standing up to your
boss in the face of things that have always been done a certain way is rarely
rewarded. More often, it is dismissed. Sometimes, it leads to being fired.
If you’re going to be creative, you have to be ready to face
people who will tell you all sorts of things. You can’t make a living through
creativity. It’s never been done before. It’s not safe. Don’t rock the boat.
You’re too stupid, too clumsy, and/or too flighty to accomplish the new task.
You may even face these arguments from your own internal editor.
As Elly Brown says, “Fire that guy!” Don’t listen to him,
her, or them. Draw on your courage and create. It’s okay to be afraid; do it