Wants Vs Needs: Financial Education for Children

This Wants Vs. Needs article began as an assignment for a job I applied to. I wrote this first part, reread the requirements and decided that it didn’t work. So, I wrote a second article, which I really thought of as an extension of the first article. To really make this type of post successful in a banking situation, you would want to start with a core document and build post that link to and from that core document.

Wants Vs. Needs: A Parent’s Primer for Teaching Kids

As a parent, you likely hear “I want…” from your child 10 to 12 times a day. With the amount of media children are exposed to every day, they are sure to see things that advertisers and influencers have put out there to entice them to buy. Now, is the time to start teaching your children about needs vs. wants.

What Are Needs?

To teach your children about needs vs. wants, you need to be able to define them for yourself, especially if you were never taught the difference. It’s not as easy as it might seem. Your conceptions of needs and wants is going to be based on your values. However, there are a few categories you can use to help define “needs.”

Food, clothing, and shelter are the three traditional needs. Many people would add physical, emotional, and mental health to the list. For others, education and spiritual well-being are also on the list of needs. You might even find yourself adding transportation to your list, especially if you have to commute to work. If you are unsure of what your needs are, make a short list of broad topics.

Once you have your list of needs, you’ll likely see that many needs require money. Even if you own your shelter, you probably need to pay property taxes or utilities.

What Are Wants?

Wants are everything that is not a need. Again, that’s easy to say, but the reality is more difficult. Is a banana a need or a want? You need food, but you don’t have to eat bananas. Are a pair of $75 dress shoes a need or a want? You could buy $30 dress shoes, but they won’t be as comfortable or durable. You need transportation to and from work, but you want a convertible to arrive in style.

Wants Vs. Needs

Fortunately, when you’re dealing with children, you don’t have to get into the nuances of needs vs. wants. Many times, it is better to start with a simple explanation, and as they grow, look at the nuances between the two.

The Real Wants Vs. Needs Article

As a parent, you know it’s important to start teaching your children the difference between wants and needs early. You won’t be able to avoid all the “I wants” a child has, but with some easy activities, you can give your child critical thinking tools to help decide whether something is a need or a want.

Define “needs”

First, you’ll want to define needs for the child in an age-appropriate fashion. Generally, people start with the three basic physical needs: food (what you eat), clothing (what you wear), and shelter (where you live). This offers easy, tangible items the child can see and touch. As they get older, you can have more difficult conversations about needs and wants.

Show Me the Needs Game

After you have explained the basic needs, you can test your child’s knowledge with some easy games. One easy game to play is to have the child show you the needs in the house. Start in any room and ask the child to find what items you need. This works for children who may be non-verbal because they can point to the items.

Wants and Needs Flash Cards

Flash cards are a good way to test knowledge, and you don’t have to buy them. You can cut pictures out of a magazine and paste them on to 3×5 cards. Or if you’re feeling adventurous, you and your child can draw them together. You’ll need pictures of needs and wants. Hold up two cards and ask which is a need. If the child picks the card you think is a want, ask them why they chose that card.

Color the Needs

A wants and needs coloring page can also be a helpful tool. Again, you’ll want to understand why the child chose to color certain items as needs if you think they are wants. Once children know what they need, they can make wiser decisions with their money. They can also recognize that saving their money for a want is a good idea.

‘Outer Banks’: Faux-Teens, Family, and the Search for Treasure

As with a majority of teen dramas, the actors portraying the teens of ‘Outer Banks’ are in their 20s with Chase Stokes being the oldest of the main troupe at 27! Stokes’ John B. is a 16-year-old headed to foster care after the disappearance of his father who was looking for the gold from an old sea-wreck. He lives on the poor side of the Outer Banks and runs with his Pogues. There’s plenty of teen drug use and violence, with fists and the occasional gun being used to solve problems. There are also a couple of scenes of teen sex, but they don’t get too graphic. Clothes remain mostly in place.

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My Niece, the Haunted Mansion and Fear

When my oldest niece was about five, my mom and I took her on the Haunted Mansion. We went through the Stretching Room, down the Portrait Gallery and boarded the same Doom Buggy. As we rolled up the stairs and into the mansion, I was getting into it. The Haunted Mansion isn’t scary, but it’s fun to pretend it is.

So, I was taking everything seriously. The armor, the endless hallway with the floating candelabra, the chair that seems to be staring at you. Each new “horror” made me look more fearful. As we rotated to see the body trying to get out of the coffin, my mom hit me in the shoulder.

“Lighten up. You’re scaring your niece,” she whispered at me.

I switched the way I was looking at the mansion and laughed at its humorous elements. I kept smiling through the ride, and my niece had a great time. She wasn’t afraid of no ghosts.

Fortunately, the team of Claude Coats and Marc Davis helped to provide the elements of a frightening atmosphere and comic presentations. (Of course, there are plenty of contributions from other prominent imagineers, like Rolly Crump and his human-like furniture and wallpaper and the effects pioneered by Yale Gracey with Crump.) So, you can see the Haunted Mansion the way you want to. It is the creativity that the team put into the mansion that makes it a classic attraction that everyone loves.

For more on the Haunted Mansion and creativity, preorder “The Haunted Mansion Is Creativity.” You can also get “Disneyland Is Creativity” and “Penguinate! Essays and Short Stories: Improve your Creativity for a Better Life and World.”

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5 Episodes in: Isolation within and outside of ‘The Umbrella Academy’

Isolation is one of those themes that pops up quite a bit in science fiction. From “The Twilight Zone’s” first episode ‘Where Is Everybody’ to Will Smith’s “I Am Legend,” people are fascinated by the effects that being alone for an extended period can have on a person. It’s probably in part due to the dual nature of humanity. We want to be alone, and we need companionship; every person is somewhere on the spectrum between these demands, and it changes depending on the day and inner requirements.

Spoiler Alert.

This theme should have been clearer from the start of “The Umbrella Academy.” There were so many other things to adjust to, however, that it got lost until episode five. Number Five is the most isolated. He spends decades in the future with a manikin, who is as real to him as any person. Luther spends four years on the moon, which for him was enough.

Allison has been psychologically isolated from people for most of her life. She couldn’t discern what was real and what was the result of her power. She is now isolated from her daughter ad is attempting to build a new relationship with Vanya.

Pogo, and this is important, was left alone in the house after all the children moved on with their lives. Diego constantly talks about how mom was treated, but he doesn’t pay any attention to the talking chimpanzee who also had to put up with the abuse (as Diego sees it) that father dished out. Pogo says that he owes everything he is to Mr. Hargreeves, but it’s clear he’s hiding something.

Klaus used drugs to keep the spirits at bay. These are the spirits he should have been connecting with his whole life in a “Ghost Whisperer” sort of way. Unfortunately, his father’s ill-conceived training regime did nothing but frighten a young child into a life of escapism and dulling fear through chemistry. He continues to refuse to embrace who he his and what his power represents, even if there’s nothing scary about his brother Ben, who hangs out with him.

Diego lives in the backroom of a gym and goes out nights to fight crime. He has spent his life pushing people away and doing things his way without compromise. The death of his not-girlfriend sends him further down the road to isolation. He doesn’t recognize that he needs companionship, but his actions suggest otherwise as he takes Klaus with him to stake out the donut shop.

Surprisingly, it’s the relationship between Hazel and Agnes that hammers the theme home. Hazel feels acutely alone, and it’s affecting his work. Perhaps his isolation is worse because he spends all of his time with a partner as they travel 52 weeks a year. When he opens up to Agnes, he reveals that his job is fulfilling anymore.

People need companionship. They need to be part of something bigger than themselves. They need to be loved. Religions, cults and sports teams flourish because they can provide a semblance of these things. Humans define themselves in terms of the other; we don’t know who we are without someone else to base ourselves on. It’s part of our strongest desire – that of establishing and maintaining our identity. Sometimes, that means embracing the love of family, both biological and chosen. Sometimes, it means choosing something more carnal.

When a man finally shows interest in Vanya, she falls for him. She doesn’t care if he’s nefarious. On the outside he presents a nice-guy façade, and he does things to support and help her, including, unbeknownst to her, murder. Vanya won’t take the warnings of Allison because she has been isolated for so long. She hasn’t felt worthy and no one has expressed to her that she is worthy. Her father always told her she was ordinary. Her siblings ignored her to the point that when Allison watches tapes from their childhood, she says she wouldn’t let anyone treat her daughter that way. Vanya wrote a book that further estranged her from the family. She lives alone and pushes people away. So, when she finally decides to open up and take a chance, she falls hook, line and sinker for the manipulations of Leonard.

Vanya gives Leonard her love, literally and her power, figuratively. Leonard, a creep, stalker and killer, dumps her pills and unleashes Vanya’s creative power. Not all creative power is good. Some people use their creativity to destroy. The atomic bomb, hypersonic ICBMs, new forms of torture… the list of terrible creativity is long and horrific. Vanya’s power isn’t just to build but to destroy, and when she finds out about Leonard’s manipulations, it could be apocalyptic. Allison still provides hope that someone can reach her.