When ‘Dead to Me’ season 2 started filming in Sep. 2019, coronavirus didn’t exist, and 2020 was still in the future. So, how the writers came up with a show that is a simile for the entire year and what we’re all going through is a mystery. Think of Steve as the coronavirus, which leads to a discussion of how long they would have to stay in the house together. The writers have created a simile for everything that has happened and combined it with Poe’s “The Tell-Tale Heart” (affiliate link) creating something new and amazing. ‘Dead to Me’ season 2 continues to provide surprises, even if one of them is straight from a soap opera. It also provides disaster upon disaster.
If you haven’t binged “Dead to Me,” yet, it’s time to start.
The short episodes featuring Christina Applegate and Linda Cardellini pack a
punch. They are witty, dark and amazing. Bookmark this page and come back to it
after you’ve seen the series. There are spoilers after the trailer.
Jen (Christina Applegate) found out she had the breast
cancer gene and decided to undergo a double mastectomy to protect her family
from the pain and suffering she went through when her mother died early due to
breast cancer. She does this because she has seen the stress and sorrow that
breast cancer can cause. Yet, Jen still smokes and drinks a lot, so while she has
reduced the cancer risk due to her genetics, she has increased her overall
cancer risk due to lifestyle choices. And it’s an unfortunately too realistic
portrayal of decisions people make every day.
At first glance and with deeper thinking, it may seem like Jen’s decision to smoke and drink is in direct opposition to her decision to have a double mastectomy to reduce her risk of cancer. After all, smoking causes cancer, and recent studies have shown that alcohol is the cause of “several types of cancer.” It should be a no-brainer for Jen to give up these vices; instead, she dives headfirst into them.
In some ways, having a double mastectomy is the easier decision
because it only has to be made once. There is a lot that goes into that
decision, but once it’s made and the procedure is done, there’s no going back.
Someone who should quit smoking or drinking needs to make the decision to not
participate in those activities every day. Sometimes, the addiction is bad
enough that an active decision needs to be made several times a day. It’s not
just one decision and it’s over. Instead, it’s a continuous process of
decision-making that doesn’t get easier.
Smoking and drinking are socially acceptable. Having a smoke
or drink with someone is a way to bond with that person. Jen is in a position
where she needs a support system. These activities are a socially acceptable
way to make interactions easier.
Smoking and drinking provide solace and improve mood. Jen is
facing the death of her husband and the problems that come with it. Alcohol is
a depressant, which would make it easier for her to sleep at night. Smoking
provides a comforting habit while producing a positive-emotion effect. Both
these things are helping her deal with her sadness, her feelings and the
tragedy she has experienced.
Regardless of her personal experience, Jen has fallen into
the trap that many people succumb to. She doesn’t believe that smoking or
alcohol will harm her in the long run. She experienced the death of her mother
due to cancer, but that cancer was ostensibly caused by the BCRA gene not by
other behavioral and environmental factors. While the cause of cancer is often
more complicated than people want to believe, it’s easier to have a procedure
done than it is to change behavior and overcome the addictiveness of nicotine
and alcohol.
Most of the time when people curse, it’s not pleasant or
natural. It’s like they’re trying too hard to make a point: I’m cool, I’m down
to earth, I’m angry, I don’t give a rip what others think… (probably should
have put a swear word in there.) The words spew forth like so much phonic vomit
with no care for art or lyricism. Christina Applegate’s Jen in “Dead to Me” is
the exception.
If you haven’t binge-watched “Dead to Me,” what are you
waiting for? With episodes coming in at under 30 minutes, you’re getting a
series that can fit in with almost any schedule, and every episode packs a
punch of drama, comedy, pathos and the exploration of psychology that comes
with it. Bookmark this page, go watch the show and then come back here for the
discussion. Spoilers are below the trailer.
Jen (Christina Appplegate) found out she had the gene
related to breast cancer and got a double mastectomy (Applegate went through
the procedure IRL in 2008) to save her family the trauma of what she went
through when her mother died. (She still smokes heavily, but that’s for a
different blog post.) After the surgery, her husband stops being intimate with
her, and unbeknownst to her, he finds a younger woman with larger breasts to
start a relationship with. He told this girl that he was a widower and his wife
died from breast cancer.
While Judy’s (Linda Cardellini) case is a little more
complicated, she says her fiancé left her after she had her fifth miscarriage.
He couldn’t deal with the pain or the letdowns, and he wanted to have a family
at some point.
These two experiences are parallel. As the two women have
their womanhood and desirability called into question when they, for all
intents and purposes, lose the body parts that make them female. Is Jen any
less worthy of her husband’s love after she sacrifices for the sake of her
family’s future? Is Judy less deserving of love because she hasn’t been able to
bring a child to term?
Most people would say “No,” probably including these two
women’s husbands before the procedure and the miscarriage had the hypothetical
been asked of them. For all of American society’s supposed advances in rights
and body image, the U.S. still values women for how they look and their ability
to bear children. Nowhere is that point made better without it being preached
than in “Dead to Me.”
The trailer is here to prevent you from seeing any spoilers.
“Dead to Me” is a slow-burning, smart series that includes surprise reveals and
twists you may or may not expect. If you haven’t seen it yet, don’t spoil it
for yourself. Go watch it. There is
swearing and discussion about issues particularly related to the female experience;
both these things should recommend the show to you because they help make it
funny, tragic, and create biting irony.
When Judy (Linda Cardellini) befriends Jen (Christina
Applegate) at a grief group, it seems sincere enough. She’s a little too eager
and overzealous, but people grieve in different ways. This may just be the way
Judy deals with her grief.
However, Judy’s secret casts a shadow on her interactions
with Jen, even as they become fast friends. Judy was the driver in the hit and
run that killed Jen’s husband. The guilt she feels has led her to try to do
something for Jen and her family to make their lives better. Through her
actions, camera angles and the acting skills of Cardellini, it also becomes
clear that Judy wants to be caught. She doesn’t want to live with her guilt, but
she doesn’t want to go to jail, either. The only problem is that she doesn’t know
how to relieve her guilt without putting her at risk of going to prison.
When Jen (Christina Applegate) goes to a grief counseling
circle, Judy (Linda Cardellini) tries too hard to become her friend. Jen holds
onto her anger at her husband’s killer, a hit and run driver, and she is left
alone with her two boys. Judy comes across as flaky, weird and possibly crazy.
She says she lost her fiancé eight weeks ago.
“Dead to Me” deals with grief and other social issues. When
the twist is revealed, it’s not because it’s obvious; it’s because of the
acting skills of Cardellini and possibly the director’s skills.
There’s only one way this series can end, but much like
watching a train wreck, you won’t be able to look away as the characters become
more entwined and make choices that, while poor, make sense in what we as
viewers know about the situation. The acting is great. Cardellini and Applegate
make for an odd couple that fit just right. The situations are funny, and the
dialogue is spot on. The characters are sympathetic and the script is
well-written.
Don’t be put off by the stated subject matter of the series.
“Dead to Me” is funny, smart and deserves to be in queue and binged at the first
possible moment. Discover something you didn’t know you were missing.
